I’ve never been big on new year’s resolutions. Oh, I’ve tried over the years. I remember when I was little, my sister and I wrote down all our resolutions—at least a dozen each—and hid them so no one would find out what they were. I’m not quite sure what the hiding part of the exercise was supposed to do, other than protect us from disdain when we broke those early promises we made.
In fact, here I am just shy of sixty-five, and I can’t remember ever keeping a new year’s resolution. I don’t know a single person who made a transformative change in his or her life that started that way. On the effectiveness meter, those resolutions struggle to get past zero.
I’ve been trying to think through why that is and this is what I have come to realize: our new year’s resolutions aren’t really about resolutions at all. They are about making a list of what we want to change in our lives. It’s more a purging exercise than it is being resolved to make those changes.
There is really no plan to go with that list. It’s more along the lines of magical thinking. “I have a whole, new year ahead of me, filled with possibilities. I am finally going to….(fill in the blank.)”
This year, I am planning on taking a different approach. I am not going to focus on what I want to change in my life at all. Instead, I’m going to focus on the last part of new year’s resolutions. That’s right, the “resolved” part is where the gold is.
My resolution this year is to be resolved in whatever changes I want to make. That means figuring out what path I need to take to make that change. It means getting the resources and support I need to do it. It means making specific, measurable, achievable goals.
I commit to being resolved.
No matter what my goals are for this year, no matter how big or little, I commit to being resolved to meet those goals.
How about you?